Expecting something out of others for yourself can sometimes be considered as selfish as you may not know how the person might take it. Eventhough you meant well by it, if others do not appriciate it, it will still be considered as selfish. Of course, the fault does not entirely lie within that person alone. Sometimes it is also because you are less sensitive that you are unaware of how that person feels that you hurt that person un-intentionally with your 'good' natured deeds.